Astrology and Relationships: Love's Celestial Playground

When we meet people we find that we are instantly attracted or drawn in to them, or totally turned off, right? I feel it is safe to say that it is part of human nature to feel these connections, they are after all what can lay the foundation for a beautiful marriage of 60 years plus, or a tumultuous love affair that is so full of passion that it burns itself out, maybe it is a friendship that lasts from the womb to the last breath in this incarnation, either way relationships are a beautiful part of what makes humanity divine, when it chooses to be, so lets have a look at what role the stars play shall we?

For those of you reading this is probably seems silly to believe that these connections with others are all biological and filled with complex pheromones and subconscious dominance issues, that plays a part I'm sure, but there is something "fated" about the people we meet, we will look at this more in a future article all about the Draconic or "Soul Chart" as it is sometimes called, but first we will look at the aspects made between the planets and make some sense out of the stars' language on love and romance.

The Trine:

This is a relationship that is all about going with the flow, think of spending days and nights living in bliss with someone who seems to be right out of the Better Homes and Gardens Beach Edition magazine, now wake up, EEK!!! Haha, got ya, the issue with a Trine between planets is that the relationship is reflected as picture perfect, but perfect can be more than some people can handle, and soon can become dull or predictable, there is often a lack of excitement, of that sexual tension, sure you can build blanket tents with the chairs out of the dining room, but there can be a real lack of maturity with too much of this going on in a relationship chart, remember, less is often times more.

Good planets to see in a Trine- Mercury and Mars would make a good combo for this aspect, as you could talk for hours about what you want to do in your life, what you want to accomplish, or what your passions are, this aspect would stimulate the partnership on a mental level, and even put some healthy mental competition into action, scrabble anyone?, and who knows where else you could use some of this burning creativity, ahem!

The Sextile:

This is the kind of relationship that is about the relating, I see this aspect as forming a friendship, and though positive, as you can never have to many friends, or as I consider mine "a family of friends" for many there is a much deeper need, a connection and bond that binds the souls, and while the Sextile shows an ability to relate and get along well, it doesn't show too much promise on it's own for a passionate love affair.

Good planets to see in a Sextile: The Sun in a Sextile to your partners Venus would be a great combo for this tiny-but-mighty aspect, this would make for a very flowing, casual, and flirtatious beginning to what could perhaps turn into a wind swept romance! Also, you both would make each other feel really sexy, attractive, and special, so as you can see, the Sextile can truly pack a punch!

The Conjunction:

One of the most powerful aspects, this would show a relationship that is destined to be, the Conjunction is like an eclipse of the heart and soul, and is almost like a glue, you cannot get enough of each other, or likewise, get away from one another, this can very easily be a life long relationship that simply won't quit, and lets hope you don't want it to, because it could easily be reflecting a positive loving marriage, or a very unhealthy partnership that you simply can't shake, depending on the planets involved and signs too of course, but taking it on it's own you are looking at a real turning point for you in the romantic area when you find someone who you share this aspect with, it will for sure set the tone for a lifetime.

Good Planets to see in Conjunction: The tradition planets you want to see, especially for those that are of the marital persuasion, is the Sun and Moon, or either one, or land's sakes even both, on the Ascendant or Rising Sign as it sometimes called, this is going to be a very influential partnership no matter the outcome, so enjoy the ride! This is a going to be a partnership where your partner's feelings, if it is their Moon, will influence and guide your feelings about life and yourself even, you will want to merge into them completely and rarely be apart, so it is no wonder it is seen in marriage, you can't get enough!

The Square: 

Wowee, this is some kind of an intense rendezvous, but could sure turn out fun! This aspect can lead to loads of temper flares and heat-of the-moment exchanges, but that isn't always a bad thing, is it? The Square can easily be one of those aspects where you love someone so deeply that you can't stand it, or sometimes even them, but what is most important is taking the time to see where they are coming from, there is no relationship that can't be mended or worked through, but this is one of those little celestial pairings that could be a deal breaker if you start playing the relationship games, tread light and enjoy the fireworks, as there will be plenty to go around.

Good planets to see in a Square: I can't say that any planet is going to be "good" in a Square, but one pairing that would sure be good for some zest in your love life would be with the Sun and Mars, though it could threaten the one partner's ego and independence, it is sure to turn up the heat in a battle of wills that is sure to please, but be aware that conflict will arise with any square activity, but that can make all the difference in a good way.

The Opposition:

The last aspect we will look at is the opposition, and good golly are we talking about coming from two different universes! At least that is what we feel at first. The thing about having planet's in opposition is that you have a feeling of having to seek out whatever the planet that is involved represents in your life, whether that is the Moon, emotional and feeling sort of needs that may change or need mending, or perhaps Jupiter, which all about giving and needing to sweep your lover off their feet with possessions or dreams that you have a mind to build on, either way it may not be there style, or they may not go for what you are wanting or needing to give or receive. Seem hopeless? Not totally, as it depends on the planets, it also depends on whether you are willing to get real and see that this could be something really great if only your fear of being that person who gets everything but still feels empty, or has to settle and always yearns for more, doesn't keep you from something really fulfilling, it may be good to ride the waves out to calmer seas, you might just find that you are more alike than you ever realized, or that they were providing something then that you really find you want in your life now, it can all sort of hit you later, either way you will be changed from this experience even if it goes up in flames.

Good planets to have in Opposition: Like the Square, there isn't any planet that is "good" in this little matching, but having your Suns in Opposition can sure lead to some soul searching, you might even find that they are the  missing piece to your life that you have always been looking for, but could never find, as they are totally on the other end of the spectrum from you that they can show you how to  let loose and forget about the problems and worries and go for a sail on the Love Boat, especially if we are talking about Pisces/Virgo combo, at any rate you might just find that you like this kind of tension after all, could really get you out of your head, so give it a try, like they say, variety is the spice of life!

This is just a taste of what the Synastry chart can reveal about relationships, and not just the romantic variety either, we are all made to tick a certain way and sometimes just the right person comes along to work in sync with our quirks, and bring with them a few of their own. If you are burning to know more about how to put the spice back into your love life, I highly recommend Susan Sheppard's book  The Astrological Guide to Seduction and Romance: How to Love a Libra, Turn on a Taurus, and Seduce a Sagittarius, you will be greatly amused by her whimsical approach, and greatly enlightened by her insights into relationships.